Here are a few quick things to move the power of a better date. This is not the ultimate list but contains a few reminders of some basics. This is how to build a healthy soul.
1. The first date offered. Say that you are busy that day and get the other person to come up with another time. This sends a good message you have a life and are not needy.
2. Take a back seat. Let the other person do most of the talking on the date. It takes the pressure of you and allows the other person to do most of the sharing. Ask lots of questions if you are nervous, then once you both arrive at a topic you feel confident start to share.
3. First date length. It's better to not to do anything that lasts more than an hour or so. It is better if the date is low key such a coffee, a quick walk in the park or a lunch break.
4. Get the other person to chose the cafe, bar or park. Let's see what their thought process is and how organised they are. You'll soon tell if they are genuinely interested even if they put a little thought into the place.
5. If you are comfortable to see the person again, do something along these lines for three or four times before taking it up to something like dinner and a movie.
The world can enable us to feel a sense of deserving. Why is better to earn something? How does deserving do us a disservice? What are the results of earning over deserving?
There are many cases of people in financially challenging situations who have won a lot of money. We get a sense inside of us that this is wonderfully fair and a great deal of good has been done. However, in a lot of cases, this new found wealth has led to disaster within these families including gaol, murder, bankruptcy and family distress. This sudden bolt of injection has burnt them like toast.
The better alternative is for us to grow with success. If we are financially challenged it is better for us to earn money and grow slowly within and outside for us to deal and grow with what is coming.
The same principal can be applied to a new relationship, job, family or project. For us to start to overcome our personal challenges and goals, we need to feel a sense of ownership and growth that is comparative. The more we earn, the more we feel positive about what we have including appreciation, joy and happiness, while a quick fix-it usually brings jealousy, chaos and more distress. Taking proactive steps to earn will lead to fulfillment and further prosperity.
The same ingredient in anyone's cake of success is constancy to purpose. When do we fall away from our desires? Why is it so hard to reach that next level? What is constancy to purpose about?
One of the challenges in life is achieving a desire, a goal or a different existence with something than to what we have now. We have dreams, ambitions and yearn for some way of making a difference in our lives and the lives of others.
Generally, in the process of a goal, we might make one or two steps towards it or in fact go right up to a point where we are almost there. At that final hurdle something out of the blue happens. An unexpected occurrence happens that we have never counted on and would have been impossible to foresee. The universe sends a challenge so big for us that it goes from being another hurdle to an 20 foot high fence causing a block.
For most people, one look at the fence and we back away even knowing that their dream was just on the other side of it. Rather than pursue any attempt at getting over the fence, the ego kicks in our heads saying that told you so, that it's all too hard, we never could do it and we were never meant to have it. Boom. We resume to our victim status. The dream fades and the work we did before the fence disappears into thin air as if we never tried.
The universe never sends us a small hurdle or a large fence we can't overcome. However, in the grand design of life and the perfect order of light, it knows that we have a lesson to learn and a strength to find in order to maintain our goal and share it. Therefore, that big hurdle is a perfectly placed fence required to give us the grounding to cherish and receive the gift of our desire. The fence is necessary part of the process and run for it, jump it and land on the other side of it with certainty. It's all designed for you. Stay constant to your purpose.
The universe provides in a perfectly organised and divine order. What are the ways we can tap into this order? Why does everything have order? How does this order impact us?
In a universe where energy for the soul is endless, it would make sense that we are able to tap into this power or light when we wish and receive in moments without any realisation of time or space. However, in true soul work, we need to earn and share our abundance or desires to truly move our soul more towards this light.
Each point along this journey to our desire, we receive rewards for our spiritual work from the universe by placing us in the right situations to earn or to share. If the reward is a challenging situation on the journey, we must earn our way to our desire, for example, by finding certainty or pushing against our ego. If the reward a situation of opportunity along the journey we have opportunity to share with others which pushes us forward towards our desires and be like the light.
In the perfect order of the universe our desires are achieved by providing us opportunity to connect with the light increasingly and develop the relationship with the universe's energy. Always remember that where we are along our journey is the right spot for us and where we are meant to be. Remain in a state of appreciation that these challenges and/or opportunities are strengthening our soul to prepare us well for all the abundance we want to receive.
Finding the light or finding the good in every situation is a great challenge. What is the light? How do we become thankful for every situation? Why do we need to see the light in even the worst of situations.
Life and the world is full of bad things happening to good people all the time. It is hard to find the purpose of someone having a serious illness, losing their job or not living in peaceful countries. To understand or find the reason why we are thrown into discomfort are sometimes beyond us.
In times of immense challenge and despair, we need to look for the good or the light. We are given these challenges as opportunities to work hard against our ego. This is the chaos in which we can dig deep to find what true power we have inside to bring rectification. It is our chance to be proactive and demonstrate our good, strong, sharing, true nature rather than react and fall into a spiral of anger, fear, despair, pity or other negative emotions.
Life gives us a chance to fall. The further we fall the higher we bounce back and the more light and good we become. Our intention and behaviour during darkness is what leads to the success of our desires. We have more chance of success from hard challenges than having things too easy. From the opportunity to learn something about ourselves, face a challenge and the chance to earn our way out of hardship, we are given a space to be thankful.
Often, we live in a great deal of comfort in how far we believe we can extend ourselves. Wouldn't it be great if we could push just that bit further? How much more could we achieve if we stepped past our comfort zone? Can we make our lives as big as possible?
It's a real challenge in our day to day lives to see our potential beyond what we are doing. Each day holds a certain amount of routine and expectation. Within this routine we build a boundary or a barrier to what we could possibly be really achieving. We often dream of great things we could do but have a fear of putting these dreams on the line and turning them into reality.
What is a great desire to have in five years time? The challenge is not about creating a goal or aspiration as that can be something we do each day or each week, but to dig deep and commit to something that is big enough to hold for five years is a real stretch. The stretch is one desire we can really focus on beyond our daily and weekly routine.
To create a true desire it must be something that we ultimately share with other people. On top of pushing the desire to be a big stretch we must almost push past the boundary of whom we are willing to share the desire. We must push past the family, the friends, the neighbour and out into the community. The bigger the desire, the bigger the share and stretching ourselves to our full and true potential and fulfilment. Only then, real change is going to come.
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